Vail Daily column: How quickly we forget
October 31, 2012
Isn’t it funny how sometimes we are quick to forget the favors that people have done for us when it comes time for us to be available to return that favor?
Now I know this doesn’t happen to everyone, I mean there are some people that never forget and are always willing to help out whenever needed whether someone had actually helped them in the past or not. They are always willing to volunteer.
But then again there are some of us who have called upon friends, families, and contacts when we found ourselves in need of moving furniture or even our entire home; needed some painting or heavy duty landscaping done; a ride to the airport; meals cooked during a crisis; a last minute baby sitter; and maybe even money.
We were blessed enough to have some terrific people in our lives step up when we needed them most. And then it happens – our telephone rings and we happily answer as we see it is a friend or relative on our caller ID, but in a flash the call begins to go horribly wrong … they are calling us to ask for help.
First thought is that we wish we would have let it go to voicemail.
The excuse chip in our brain begins to work frantically as we grope the recesses of our mind searching for an out that we had not ever used before like, funerals, sick aunt, planned trip, already loaned money to Bob, or bad back. Kind of sounds a bit like, “I wish I could but I have a funeral to attend,” “This is a bad weekend, I have my in-laws coming over,” “Geez, I really want to help you out but I am so overdue to rearrange my sock drawer and I can’t possibly put it off for another day.”
Again there are just some people that are so generous and so gracious with their time that they immediately agree to help us out. They completely get the fact that the greatest reward for helping out isn’t the returned favor, it is the feeling that they get for their contribution and the good works that they do.
Sure it might be tough duty or hard labor, and it could be just emotional support or financial assistance, but no matter what it is, if we have the time, talents, gifts or resources to help we should not quickly forget about these blessings when it comes time to lend a hand to someone in need.
I know I can think back to many, many times in my life where someone gave me a hand when I needed it. And I know I can say I may not have achieved the things I have in my life had it not been for those special people.
Hopefully we will not become one of those people that seem to forget so fast when it comes our time to lending a hand. Nor will we quickly forget the time, talents and resources that we have to offer others. Zig Ziglar, motivational speaker, author, and great friend of mine says it this way: “You can have everything in this life that you want, just as long as you help enough other people get what they want.”
Who will you help get what they want this week? I would love to hear all about it at firstname.lastname@example.org and I am convinced that when we remember to help, it will be a better than good week.
Michael Norton is a strategic consultant, business and personal coach and motivational speaker, and CEO of http://www.candogo.com. He writes a weekly motivational column for the Vail Daily.