A little direction, please
I’m somewhat in a dilemma and have been for quite some time about what I’m supposed to be doing with my life. I feel like at 25 I’m already having a mid-life crisis. Is that possible? I have a wonderful family, amazing friendships and a job where I love the people I work with. The big problem right now is my job. I’ve been with this company for about two years now (went right into it after graduating from college). I’m just not sure that this is where I’m supposed to be. My father passed away a couple of months ago and I think it made me question what I’m doing here on earth. What is my purpose? I know that life is too short to be stuck doing something you’re not passionate about but everything in which I’m passionate about, the money is my biggest problem! I’ve grown up to know that I never want to have to rely on a man in order to support myself. I want to someday get married and have a family of my own, but I also want to be in a situation where if that never comes I will be just fine on my own. I’ve been debating about becoming a teacher for the longest time but unfortunately the salary would be quite a jump backwards. I know that by teaching our future is where the benefit truly is, but I just can’t seem to get past the money right now. What should I do? I need help, please, before I’m 60 and realize that I can’t get back those younger years.
Stuck in a rut
It sounds as though you know you should be doing something else, but at the moment nothing is making you jump at the change. First of all, at least from my own experience, your 20s are a very spiritual, soul-searching time of your life that you should embrace. For me, everything I thought I knew in life and about me, I started to question. It was terrifying! But if you have the courage to continue on the journey of self-discovery, it will lead to beautiful things. If you have read any of my previous columns, you know that I love quotes. One thing I have posted on my desk is: “BELIEVE, HAVE FAITH, WHAT YOU NEED WILL COME.”
I think the most difficult situation to be in is to be on the fence and not know what to do. My suggestion to you is to keep a “manifestation” journal. You have the power to create your life exactly as you want it to be. Write in it what you want, what you are scared of … possibilities of your future. Dream big! Get your thoughts outside of your mind and put them to paper. I once read that the most successful people in the world all had one thing in common: They all set goals. Set your goals. Be OK with being on the fence because you know your energy is being set to good use, because you are manifesting what you want to create in your life through this journal. This is just a start, but I do think this is the first step. Start here, and I will continue to guide you on this journey. There is so much more I can share. I just recently uprooted my life and changed careers. It is a journey, please take this advice and send in another e-mail after doing this journal for a week. I think many people can relate to what you are going through. Let’s document it and share it.
Thank you for having the courage and insight to recognize change that needs to happen for your own happiness in life. Keep me posted.
“Sometime in your life you will go on a journey. It will be the longest journey you have ever taken. It is the journey to find yourself.”
– Katherine Sharp
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