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A New Perspective: Decide to be happy

Catherine Zeeb
Vail CO, Colorado
Columnist Cathy Zeeb

Happiness isn’t something that just appears or disappears. It is something we have to create. We tend to wait for something to make us happy ” happy when you get a promotion, happy when you meet the right person, or happy when you lose weight.

We are forever waiting for that external thing to awaken our joy and happiness. The waiting is actually what keeps us unhappy. Happiness is a choice we make, and must continue to make repeatedly.

If we continue to live in our unhappiness, that’s where we’ll be. You can make the choice to be happy. Even if you don’t feel like it, you can do a few things to change the energy of unhappiness.

– Smile more.

– Go for a walk and put an extra spring in your step.

– Say thank you more often.

– Tell yourself that you are happy.

This begins to shift the energy of sadness. We can choose to sit in our sadness or not. That’s it. Doing these steps will not change your sadness or the event(s) that caused your sadness, but it will begin to shift the energy around your sadness.

Practice makes perfect. The more you put yourself in a better mood, even if you don’t really feel like it, the quicker you’ll be in a better mood.

When you smile, the muscles in your face contract and endorphins are released into your blood stream, giving you that good feeling. Try holding a pen in your mouth, it will make you smile. The body will believe that you are smiling. The only thing that tells you that you’re not smiling is your ego-mind.

Picking up your step when you walk helps move the energy within the body. If you sit still and sit in your sadness, how can you experience anything else but sadness?

Moving, picking up the pace, sends more oxygen to your legs, arms, torso and brain.

Gratitude is a wonderful way to beat sadness. What are you grateful for? Sitting in sadness expresses that which we are experiencing and we don’t think there’s a way out. Sitting in gratitude expresses things that we love in the moment or things that we loved in the past.

Tell yourself you’re happy. Why not? Sadness doesn’t feel good. Unless you’re grieving and need to experience those emotions, sadness doesn’t feel good ” period. It’s easy to stay sad because we’re taught that it’s okay to be sad. If you tell yourself that you are happy, you will act happy and begin to feel happy.

Make the decision that you are not going to allow problems, challenges or obstacles to interfere with your happiness. Only you can decide to be happy. Only you can decide to be sad as well. What’s your choice today? What if you walked around smiling? What if you felt better? What if you were happy each day? We feel waves of serenity, acceptance and joy as we relax into the flow of our lives.

Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards and teaches Metaphysics at Colorado Mountain College in Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.

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