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A New Perspective: Is love enough?

Catherine Zeeb
Eagle County CO, Colorado
Columnist Cathy Zeeb

EAGLE COUNTY, Colorado ” Is love enough to keep a marriage, friendship or another relationship together? Is it possible to love your partner enough that things get back to the way they used to be? Can you love your friends enough that differences and hurts are forgiven? Is love enough to make it through and strengthen issues you may be having at work?

Sometimes it just seems like love isn’t enough. You love and you love some more. You think you are doing everything possible to keep your marriage alive, or at least, keep it together. Is ‘loving more’ the answer?

Your friends seem to be doing things without you. You feel like if you say no to their invitations then they won’t ask you again. As you do more and more with your friends to stay connected, you find that you are not taking the best care of yourself. Is loving your friends more and spending more time with them the answer?

You have issues at work. Your boss is always criticizing you, which makes you feel unimportant and maybe useless. Can love help this situation?

Yes, love is enough. Love is enough when it is the force or the heart from which you act and speak. Love is enough when it is from truth and not manipulation. Love is enough when it comes from the soul and not from the ego-mind; it can transform your world.

Loving your self is essential. Martyrdom will not work here. Martyrdom believes that you give everything you have to someone or something with the expectation of getting something back. This is not loving; this is love filled with what is missing within you, an unfulfilled need.

When you love yourself you can give healthy love back. You will then love others without desperation. This is true love. An empowered person lives in love. Where does love reside? It resides in the soul. There is nothing that cannot be healed by love. Love is an active force. Love brings harmony. To heal violence there must be love. To heal discord there must be love.

Love is always enough when you love yourself and express it to others and in every situation. But can love save a marriage where you are the only person giving love and tapping into the love within? What if your partner doesn’t think it is necessary to love themselves? What if your partner doesn’t think things need to change and grow? How does love help this situation?

Love may not be enough if you are the only one giving. A decision may need to be made if the situation you are in does not bring balance to your soul. As humans we tend to try and make situations work whether they are right for our soul or not. This causes stress and discord within oneself and within our external relationships.

Ask for love. This replenishes the soul and gives energy to the soul. Ask for love of self first. The more empowered your soul feels, the more you will not have the need to control the external world by “loving it” so that you feel you are getting something back. Love must emanate from your soul, empowering you, strengthening you, balancing you. This is the energy from which all love is given.

Love without boundaries. Love yourself enough that it is OK to move on if a situation is not in alignment with your soul. Love the other person or the situation enough to let go so they or it can find peace as well. Love is the richness and fullness of your soul flowing through you.

Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.

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