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A New Perspective: Live what you want to see in the world

Columnist Cathy Zeeb

If you want people to be different, you must demonstrate what that looks like. It is up to you to be the best you can be and not expect others to be anything other than who they are. If, for example, you want your husband or wife to be more spiritual, you be more spiritual. If you want your friends to be more balanced, you be more balanced. If you want your children to respect, you respect.

We must demonstrate what it is we want to see in the world. If we expect others to do what we think should be done or be what we think they should be, we will forever be disappointed. You are the channel through which divine action takes place. It is through you that others understand grace.

Demonstrating love is the act of being love ” loving oneself, having respect for yourself. No one has to know what you’re doing, you will just be these things and those around you will begin to emulate your behaviors. They will not follow, but instead like what they see enough that they may decide it might just work for them too. It begins a string of compassion and generosity that may or may not have been in the world otherwise.

Demonstrating love does not mean that you run up and hug every person you see, as nice as that might seem. It means that you’re truthful first and foremost. You don’t brag about being love, you don’t brag about being compassionate and you don’t brag about being kind, you just are these things because you wouldn’t have it any other way.

There doesn’t have to be an explanation for your behavior. You know that how you live and what you live is your truth and it is what is right for you and you just do it. There will be those who disagree with demonstrating love as they may believe “to each his own” or that no one’s behavior can affect another person, or that it’s silly to think that their behavior towards themselves affects the world. That’s OK. It is not up to us to tell them they could do it differently, it is up to us to demonstrate through our own actions ” that’s it.

Here’s an example of demonstrating love. If someone comes into your home with very dirty shoes and leaves mud on your carpet you have two choices ” get mad at them or know that it’s just mud and it can be vacuumed up. If you understand that things happen and you are working on learning to let go and not sweat the small stuff, by not getting upset over the mud on your rug, you are demonstrating letting go. You are demonstrating that not everything that happens is important, and instead, that you choose what is important enough in your life to get worked up over.

This example may seem like a small thing compared to life’s big events, but the small stuff is where we get caught up in life. If we learn to manage the small stuff by making better choices, we will handle the big stuff better. When we demonstrate love, compassion and kindness with ourselves, we will demonstrate it towards others and their behaviors as well.

This is the art of demonstrating love. This is the art of infinite compassion, of infinite joy, of infinite ease in the world. We are how we act towards ourselves. We are what we bring to the world. Begin today with one small step and then expand as it feels right. If everyone took a minute to understand that how they treat themselves gets demonstrated into the world, would it be a better world?

Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards and teaches Metaphysics at Colorado Mountain College in Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.

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