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A perfect world

Daily Staff Writer

Some maxims, life instructions and other stuffWe all receive e-mails containing aphorisms and catch phrases about how to live life well. Many come with a caveat that we must forward them on to at least eight other people within the next 15 minutes or this or that will occur. While I seldom pass them on (unless I’m absolutely positive that by doing so I’ll receive $5 trillion within 30 days), I do save some of the more poignant ones.What follows are various life instructions, maxims and saws that I’ve saved over the years. In many cases, I’ve redacted or extrapolated the more touching of these adages to fit into my version of a perfect world. Hopefully you will find these food for thought:– Maybe God wants us to meet a few wrong people before meeting the right person so that when we finally meet him or her, we will be grateful for that gift. When the door of happiness closes, another opens. But often we look so long at the closed door that we fail to see the one that has been opened for us.– Giving someone all our love is never an assurance that they’ll love us back, and we shouldn’t expect love in return. Rather, it may be beneficial to wait for it to grow in another’s heart, and if it doesn’t, we should be content it grew in our own. At the same time, we should never give up hope that we can find someone to share our hearts with.– The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything. They just make the most of everything that comes their way. — When we were born, we were crying and everyone around us was smiling. Wouldn’t it be nice of we lived our lives so that when we died, we’re the one who is smiling and everyone around us is crying? On the subject of living our lives, I once read that if we keep a journal when we’re young, it will keep us when we’re old.– It might be beneficial to all of us if we imagined life as a game in which each of us is juggling five balls. We can call these balls, work, family (including a significant other), health, friends and spirit. Of these five balls, only work is made of rubber. If we drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls – family, health, friends and spirit – are made of glass. When we drop one of these, they will be scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or perhaps even shattered and it will never be the same. Living life well means that we’ve come to understand that concept.– Because we are different we are special, which means that we cannot be truly happy if we continually undermine our sense of self-worth by comparing ourselves with others. We should refrain from setting our goals by what other people deem important. Only we know what is best for us, and that’s usually what is closest to our hearts. Cling to those things as we would our life, for without them life is meaningless. — Don’t give up when you still have something to give because nothing is really over until the instant we stop trying. We shouldn’t be afraid to encounter risks because by taking chances we learn how to be brave. But be careful about using time or words carelessly because neither can be retrieved. — We should never allow our lives to slip through our fingers by living in the past or for the future. By living our lives one day at a time, we live all the days of our life. Life is not a race, but a journey to be savored each step of the way.– Speaking of savoring, I think the following represents some of the little things that make life worthwhile (at least for me): the first cup of coffee on a cold morning; a good cup of coffee on any morning; a letter or an e-mail from a friend seeking to resume a friendship; people who truly make us laugh; old friends, because friendships are difficult to maintain; new friends, because friendships are difficult to initiate; silence.Here are a few more: really good pillows; clean sheets; powder days; four seasons; comfortable shoes; a dry cleaner that sews on missing buttons without being asked; ski boots that never hurt; friends who know not to phone after 9 p.m.; good shower pressure; people who hold the elevator for me; waking up rested before the alarm goes off; friend’s dogs that don’t jump up on me; any day my jeans feel roomier than they did the day before; time to read; Ttime to think; time. A quiet Friday night spent in front of a fireplace with a loving partner – no agenda, perhaps just a good book and a little conversation.While all of the aforementioned are wonderful notions, just how does one get there? Well, here are a few ideas: surround ourselves with loving caring souls; create or do something that gives purpose and meaning to life; be fully present; give back to the community; be open and honest in all communication; be as human as we can be; create a cocoon of human activities that includes genuine conversation, intimacy, friendship, and affection; learn how to give love and let it come in because “love is really the only rational act.” Before I forget: If you don’t pass this on, nothing bad will happen to you.Butch Mazzuca of Singletree, a Realtor, can be reached at bmazz68@earthlink.netVail, Colorado

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