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Building winning relationships to reach your goals in the Vail Valley

So, how are the first days of the year going for you, Vail Valley residents?

Hopefully, you are still completely committed to your New Year’s Resolutions and goals. For those of you who don’t believe in making resolutions, today could be the day you decide to set a goal for yourself for 2009. And maybe you are one of those folks who just aren’t buying into any of this goal-setting business.

Whichever group you fall into, I think you will agree that building winning relationships is important to all of us. As a matter of fact, many of you who did make a commitment this New Year’s Eve included improving the relationships in your life.

You desire to have a better relationship with your friends and co-workers, you are looking for a deeper relationship with God, and/or you are longing for a more loving relationship with your children and your spouse.

Question: How often should you tell those that you care for that you love them?

Answer: Before someone else does.

As you pursue those winning relationships you have to understand that in every relationship there is give and take. You have to be prepared to give more and take less. As a matter of fact, this is a good time to remind you what Zig Ziglar says, “You can have everything in life that you want, just as long as you help enough other people get what they want.” It is so true in every relationship.

If you go out looking for a friend you might find a couple. If you go out to be a friend you will find more friends than you have ever had before.

Our relationships, especially close, healthy, winning relationships, are the foundational ingredient in achieving all of the other goals we have set for ourselves. These are the people in our lives we mutually support when we are trying change for the better, pick each other up when we are feeling down, drive one another when we need a kick in the pants, remind us of our passions, and love each other unconditionally.

In a healthy winning relationship we can share dreams and visions without fear of being ridiculed or made to feel small. Instead, we build each other up to live and dream as big as possible.

There is a story that goes like this: In a village there lived a young boy who had amassed the greatest marble collection anywhere in the country. His marble collection was the envy of every other young boy ” and even some of the men ” in the surrounding villages.

In that same village there lived a young girl, and she had the largest candy collection anywhere in the country. One day the young boy and young girl got together and decided to make a trade, the candy for the marbles.

On the day of the exchange, the boy had placed a few of his most prized marbles under his pillow. He then went to meet the young girl and the exchange was made. That night the young boy lay restlessly in his bed all night wondering what candy the girl had held back and not given him. On the other end of town, the young girl slept peacefully and well as she knew she had given everything.

In the pursuit of any goal we choose, we must give our all. And in pursuing winning relationships we need to leave nothing behind, we need to definitely give our all. We all have just a little more to give at any moment. We can laugh a little more, listen a little more, give a little more, and love a little more. Pursue your relationships with an attitude and philosophy of love and forgiveness and you will be well on your way to building winning relationships in all areas of your life.

Your e-mails are great, so keep communicating and let me know how those resolutions and goals are coming!

Michael Norton can be reached at

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