Catherine Zeeb: Tools to help you de-stress, Vail Valley
Vail, CO Colorado
VAIL, Colorado “-Stress can kill you, Vail Valley. It can make you sick. Events can be stressful only if we attach negativity to them. Arguments with others, the death of a loved one, divorce, financial issues, problems with children and physical illnesses are all common stress producers. Stress can come from positive events as well ” weddings, celebrations, etc. It may be true that events are happening that are not pleasant, but our reaction and attachment to the events is what causes the stress. The events themselves do not cause stress.
Both positive and negative situations in life involve change. We are threatened by or afraid of change most of the time. Events become stressful when we experience change, fear it and then continue to have conversations with ourselves about it. The internal conversation can be more damaging than the reality of the situation. We tend to talk falsely to ourselves.
While a little stress can be good for us, stress can become a problem when the demands placed on us as individuals are too great or continue for too long. Stressed individuals often drink and smoke more and are particularly at risk of developing coronary heart disease, certain cancers, psychiatric disorders and alcohol- and smoking-related disorders so it is important to recognize the tell-tale signs and seek help.
One of the key ingredients of stress is expectation. If we believe that things will remain the same then something happens to change it, we become distressed. We do the same with people and their behavior. We expect them to do or act a certain way and when that doesn’t happen, we become distressed as well.
Why do we expect things to turn out the way we think they should? Can we just let life happen without expectation? We may feel disappointed when things don’t turn out like we hopeed they will. The stress comes from the significance we attach to an event and by the expectations we place upon others.
If you’ve been reading my columns for awhile now, you’ll notice there are common themese with many of the tools I propose ” i.e. meditation, breathwork or yoga. These tools can be used to calm you, bring you to a state of presence, heal, or simply remember all is well. These tools can be used to help us de-stress as well. If stress is a state of mind, then calming and soothing the mind and remembering that all is well, right in this moment, no matter what’s going on “out there,” is a good thing to learn to do.
Here are other ways to deal/cope with stress:
1. Recognize the signs of stress ” dry mouth, tight jaw, upset stomach. This is when you can begin to take action (or non-action).
2. Sometimes doing nothing is better. Time out and time away can help.
3. Identify what’s really important. Ask yourself “How important is this?” as often in your day as needed.
4. Don’t over-plan your day.
5. Make time for you ” exercise, yoga, breathe, meditate ” 3 to 5 minutes a day is all you need.
Don’t expect things to turn out the way you think they should or people to do what you think they should. Use your energy for more constructive and loving things in your life.
Catherine-Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in-Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.