Don’t be afraid of real fear
Vail CO, Colorado
“It isn’t the mountain ahead that wears you out ” it’s the grain of sand in your shoe.”
” Robert Service
We all have fear. We fear relationships, we fear death, we fear change, we fear ourselves at times, we fear who we will be if we don’t have fear, we fear losing, we fear winning, we fear our beauty and our ugliness, and the list goes on and on. Choosing to recognize fear when it arises can be difficult, if not downright painful. Avoiding the reality of fear seems so much easier.
We can change our perception by recognizing that fear is what may be driving a particular thought or reaction. Recognizing when fear comes up is not easy and I will not say that it is. We don’t even want to admit we have fear and that fear is what is driving our thoughts and behavior much of the time. The healing that comes with learning to recognize and work with fear can be profound ” it can change your life and the way you walk in this world.
“A Course in Miracles” states that we live in the energy of love or of fear. There is no in-between state of mind. When something happens in our lives, we can choose to see it through love or through fear. This doesn’t mean you allow people to walk all over you; it means that you choose what’s important and what you can let go of.
Fear is powerlessness. Fear is of the personality, love is of the soul. Fear can drive you into blindness. From fear you may act in ways that are not true to your soul. If you feel that injustice has been done and your first thought is revenge, you are living in and acting out of fear. If you feel that injustice has been done and you want revenge but you don’t act, instead letting it go or at least not reacting with violence or anger, you are living in and acting out of love.
When you are in danger, fear becomes fight or flight and that may serve you. Otherwise, when does fear serve you? There is no power in fear or in any activity demonstrated by fear. Our reaction to life conditions out of fear creates a sense of helplessness, which can then cause either lashing out in anger or caving in as a victim. Both of these stem from a lack of self-esteem, low self- worth and an overall sense of feeling not good enough.
War is a perfect example of fear. Most wars fought over religious beliefs are done so out of fear. People fear that their religion is not acceptable because it is different. It is the mentality of, “If it’s not like us, it must be wrong.”
Challenge your fears. When you know fear is rising, stop and spend a moment with it. Recognize how it it makes you feel. You don’t have to react from fear. According to Emmet Fox, “the greatest mistake man makes is fear, which is the lack of faith. Fear prevents us from taking that next important step. Fear makes us distrust our fellow man.” When we lose our faith, you place your trust in the negative, in failure.
We are divine no matter how many mistakes we have made and no matter what those mistakes were. If we react from fear and the actions we take are not positive, we can change today. That is the beauty of recognizing how fear plays in our lives. Don’t be afraid of fear ” see it as a motivator moving you closer and closer towards your connection to your truth.
Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards and teaches Metaphysics at Colorado Mountain College in Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.