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Great expectations

Laura A. Ball

AVON – Is Valentine’s Day an equal-opportunity holiday? Or between boxes of chocolate, red roses and a candlelight dinner for two, are men expected to do all the romanticizing?”I feel like I shoulder the responsibility on Valentine’s Day,” said Rordan Shane, 24, of Avon.Shane is single this year, but on Valentine’s past he took his ex-girlfriend to the same restaurant for dinner every year.”I think it’s more romantic if the guy’s putting himself out there and wearing his feelings on his sleeve for one special day out of the year. Although I think all my most romantic acts have been away from Valentine’s Day, which makes it more romantic,” he said. “It’s a classic Hallmark holiday, but at the same time, it’s a reminder to be open about your feelings.”This will be the first Valentine’s Day that Jessica Swan, 19, of Eagle-Vail will have a significant other to share the day with, although she doesn’t expect anything from her beau.”He buys me flowers and makes me dinner all the time, but it’s sort of a special day, and I know he would want to make it special for me,” Swan said. “We haven’t made any special plans yet. I have to work all day, but he has the day off so he’ll probably make me dinner and buy me flowers.”Swan believes Valentine’s Day should be no different from any other day of the year when it comes to showing your affection for the one you love.”If a couple wants to make it fun then Valentine’s Day is a good occasion, but it’s not necessary,” she said. “I’d rather have my boyfriend show his love and affection anytime, not just when someone says, ‘It’s Valentine’s Day, you should tell your girlfriend you love her.'”Chris Chase, 18, of Edwards feels the holiday is somewhat biased. “There’s definitely pressure for a guy because girls are always expecting things,” he said. “It seems girls in high school are more materialistic.”But he doesn’t let those feelings interfere with showing his appreciation for those he cares about.”There’s a teacher at my school that’s had a hard time romantically,” he said. “Two years ago, a couple of my friends and I got together and bought her flowers and chocolate. It doesn’t have to be romantic love.”John Tepley, 34, of Avon agrees.”I’ve got three younger sisters, so I always do something for them.” Tepley said.This Valentine’s Day will be special for Ryanne Chase, 27, of Avon and Josh Toner, 45, of Avon. “This is our first Valentine’s Day as an engaged couple,” Ryanne said. “As a woman, you expect something for Valentine’s Day. We have no plans yet, but I expect him to do something sweet, romantic and unexpected. It doesn’t have to be a dozen roses.”For Valentine’s Days past, Toner has written poems rather than given her a “store-bought card.””Sometimes I think, like Christmas, there’s a lot of marketing and media surrounding Valentine’s Day, so yeah, you feel a bit of pressure.”According to Ryanne, there should be no pressure.”It’s special not because of a dozen roses but because we love each other,” she said.Perhaps romantic novices should merely heed the advice of the long and happily married.”I think Valentine’s Day should be mutual,” said Maureen Shapiro of Edwards, who has been married to her husband, Les, for 43 years. “There’s as much love going toward the guy as the girl. I’ve always felt that men deserve as much appreciation.” This year, Maureen received some rather large, rather sparkly diamond earrings from her husband. “I’m probably going to buy him champagne and caviar because I don’t see how I could ever come close to showing him the appreciation that I have for these wonderful jewels that he bought me this year.”Staff Writer Laura A. Ball can be reached at 949-0555, ext. 14641, or, Colorado

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