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How not to be a friend

Don Rogers

As Eaton heats up again, this might be a good time to preach some perspective.Certain local issues engage our emotions as well as thought. Eaton Ranch is one. The last one quite like it was the debate over the Middle Creek affordable housing apartments in Vail.Then as now, you were all fer or all agin – and woe to those with the opposing view. No one had the facts, according to the opposing sides. (Even if they did.) The only thing wrong with each side was they drew the wrong conclusions, depending on your point of view, of course.Folks too often go beyond mere disagreement to something darker. Yes, darker. Friends and acquaintences withholding their personal warmth – a community’s glue – over these issues is frankly sad. It speaks poorly for the people who have taken a simple disagreement to an emotional level. The one withholding this warmth over a mere political issue is the loser every time.In that evil corner of pundits, this all too common malady merits no more than a knowing shrug. The author of these columns is just egotistical, dim, thick-skinned (take your pick) enough to not care a whit what you think of him. He only really cares about what he thinks of you. Perhaps because of those qualities listed just above, not to worry, he has a thoroughly terminal case of believing the best in just about everyone ultimately. Even when they are dead wrong on a particular issue.Yes, we jest. But truly this is a serious issue in itself. There’s no need to make an enemy of someone who simply disagrees with you. Feel sorry for them for having the wrong view if you must, but understand that intellectural differences should be the spice of life, not the cause of friendships to suffer or end. Vail, Colorado


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