Is there any life after high school?
Your son or daughter has reached the age of adulthood. He or she should be planning for the future, studying for a career, working his or her way up the ladder in a profession, but is that what is happening?
We all wish that life was that simple, but whenever you think that the road is clear there is always something dangerous around the next corner. For some the passage seems to be an easy road. For others it is marked with potholes and crises. For the young adult who has grown up with the frustrations of poor school, performance the trip to maturity may be difficult.
Jeremy was the “class clown” throughout his school years. He diverted attention from his learning difficulties by performing outrageous antics. That may have amused his peers at high school but it became destructive during to his progress during life after high school!
With his attitude of total boredom and indifference he kept others at bay. He appeared not to care, unaffected by the constructive criticism or comments of others. His bravado put people off and they laughed at him but didn’t interact with him socially. He often appeared to be the eccentric square peg in the round hole, very much out of sync with his peers. Deep in his heart he probably felt like a victim of a very unfair system. When things didn’t go his way he would say “It’s not fair, they always have it in for me. My parents aren’t good to me, my classmates are a bunch of spoiled brats and my boss is mean.”
Of course this kind of attitude didn’t help him keep a job. Beneath it all he seemed to believe that he was unable to do any better.
Constant activity was a kind of refuge for him. It was a smoke screen that kept him so busy that he had no time to make real friends, stay at home and communicate with his siblings or parents.
How could Jeremy have been helped during his early years at school? Early identification of his learning problems might have made his life easier. Without appropriate testing his teachers were robbed of the chance to help him with successful instructional strategies that might have given him more self-confidence. Without the proper identification and remediation of his problems he would have greater difficulty developing the kind of self-help strategies for problem-solving that would have helped him recognize and handle his problems constructively.
Now, as a young adult the road to better self-understanding would be far more complex for him and require much more time and energy on his part and on the part of those trying to help him. When Jeremy came to our office for an evaluation, he already wore the mask of someone who had been deeply hurt and consequently became resistant to our attempts at therapy.
Educators have estimated that $1 spent in our schools to support better educational programs for problem learners would save as much as $6 spent on psychological support and educational rehabilitation later in life.
The message is clear. Find them early, give them the support they need and they will thrive. Sally L. Smith the Founder/Director of the Lab School in Washington, D.C. has been quoted as saying of learning disabled young adults “Each day of success is a day of healing?it is never too late! Don’t let it be too late for your child!
For further information contact: Helen Ginandes Weiss, M.A & Martin S. Weiss, M.A.Learning Consultants: e.mail: firstname.lastname@example.orgP.O. Box 38, Twin Lakes, Co. 81251: 719-486-5800