Life, that twisty, bumpy road |

Life, that twisty, bumpy road

Dr. Drew WernerVail CO, Colorado

EAGLE COUNTY – If only all of life’s roads were paved as smooth as a new stretch of interstate our travels would be easy and care-free. Perhaps even better, those roads should be as flat and straight as I-70 in Kansas. Then again, after only a few hours on that road boredom sets in and caffeine is the order of the day. In truth, twists and turns, mountains and valleys and even bumps and potholes all help our attention stay focused and keep us from drifting off the road as we might otherwise be lulled to sleep. Like life itself, the roads we choose are often filled with detours, and our challenge is in how well we negotiate them. As easy, and tempting as it is to only think of the road, our tires, steering and shocks are even more important in getting us through those difficult detours. As good shocks and springs smooth out the bumps and curves of the road we travel, so does good emotional, physical and spiritual health smooth out life’s own struggles, twists and turns.A remarkable patient brought these thoughts to me last week. It started when I walked into the exam room and with a smile full of tears I was greeted kindly, followed by the simple statement: “I think you probably heard that last November I buried my second husband in 19 years.” She continued, “I think I need to take care of me now” As physicians, there are few things easier than prescribing antibiotics or pain medications. After all, that is what patients often come in for. How satisfying it is to work in such a collaborative way knowing that someone will shortly feel better. The far greater challenge is to look beyond the here and now and help our patients in ways they might not even ask for. On that particular day last week ,however, my patient did know that just as the thigh bone is connected to the knee bone, our spiritual bone is connected to all our bones. Healing comes in many forms and this poem is for that patient and all of you.THE INTERVIEW WITH GODI dreamed I had an interview with God. “So you would like to interview me?” God asked.”If you have the time” I said. God smiled. “My time is eternity.””What questions do you have in mind for me?””What surprises you most about humankind?”God answered …”That they get bored with childhood,they rush to grow up, and then long to be children again.””That they lose their health to make money…and then lose their money to restore their health.””That by thinking anxiously about the future, they forget the present, such that they live in neither the present nor the future.””That they live as if they will never die, and die as though they had never lived.”God’s hand took mineand we were silent for a while.And then I asked…”As a parent, what are some of life’s lessons you want your children to learn?””To learn they cannot make anyone love them. All they can do is let themselves be loved.””To learn that it is not good to compare themselves to others.””To learn to forgiveby practicing forgiveness.””To learn that it only takes a few seconds to open profound wounds in those they love, and it can take many years to heal them.” “To learn that a rich person is not one who has the most,but is one who needs the least.””To learn that there are people who love them dearly, but simply have not yet learned how to express or show their feelings.””To learn that two people can look at the same thing and see it differently.””To learn that it is not enough that they forgive one another, but they must also forgive themselves.””Thank you for your time,” I said humbly. “Is there anything else you would like your children to know?”God smiled and said, “Just know that I am here… always.” – Author unknownThe poem can be viewed on the Web at The author is unknown, but this is printed with permission. It is set to beautiful music and photography. I hope this bit of inspiration helps in all of your healing every day.Dr. Drew Werner of the Eagle Valley Medical Center writes a weekly column for the Daily. He encourages health questions. Write him by e-mail to or c/o Editor, Vail Daily, P.O. Box 81, Vail, 81658.

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