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Living in love or fear

Catherine Zeeb
Vail CO, Colorado
Columnist Cathy Zeeb

“If you wish to travel far and fast, travel light. Take off all your envies, jealousies, unforgiveness, selfishness and fear.” ” Glenn Clark

“A Course in Miracles” teaches us that every thought we have is either from fear or love. There are no in-between thoughts; every thought is of fear or love. Fear, for example, is thoughts of anger, doubt, judgment, hate, jealousy, expectations, etc. Love is thoughts of peace, acceptance, compassion, kindness, love and light.

Fear is of the ego. The ego is the voice that convinces us that anger, doubt, judgment, hate or jealousy is the best way to think in any given moment. Fear drives us to believe that anger is the best reaction to a situation. Fear drives us to believe that judging others is the best way to feel better about ourselves. Please visit my Web site for more information in a past column on The Ego.

Living and thinking with thoughts of love broadens our choice of how we react, or don’t, to a life situation. One statement I hear often when talking about learning to think and speak from this place of love instead of fear is “I can’t walk around thinking and living in love all the time; people and situations will hurt me or walk all over me.”

You will not get walked all over. It means that you learn to speak from truth. It may be that the truth is that the situation calls for no reaction or that you say what you need to say or do without anger, judgment, doubt, hate, jealousy, etc. You may find that you don’t need to react as much as you used to. The only reason you would react as you did in the past is because the ego thinks that is the only reaction.

Paying closer attention to our desired or habitual reactions helps us to stop and change the old habits or patterns; at this point we begin to think and live from love.

We learn to step back, take a look at our perspective and choose how important it is to react. Living and thinking from this changed place, this place of love, opens our hearts to understand that the fear is not real. It only exists because we believe in it. The only power it has over you is the belief you have in it.

Now, like most things, if you haven’t thought of your fears like this, I’m sure you’re coming up with objections and justifications for it. One of my favorite authors, Emmet Fox, uses the example of the Bogey Man. He says that it doesn’t really exist but seems real if you have a belief in it. You will bury your head under the covers, sweat, shake and even cry out, but it still does not have any power over you unless you believe in it.

This works for our fears as well. If you give your thoughts, your actions and your energy to anger, doubt, judgment, hate and jealousy it will seem real. If you give your thoughts, actions and energy over to love, nothing else will exist but compassion, kindness, peace, and acceptance ” and it will be real.

We can learn to live in the energy of love. Thinking and living from love is a freedom like you’ve never experienced. You will be free from the hold fear has on you. You will be free to not carry around the baggage of negative thoughts. If it is true that we are what we think, are your thoughts from love or fear?

Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards and teaches Metaphysics at Colorado Mountain College in Edwards. You can visit her website at

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