Living on Purpose: Don’t wait to dream " life is too short
Vail CO, Colorado
Several times last week, I was reminded of how precious life is.
Someone I knew lost her husband, who died suddenly of a heart attack. Another friend called to tell me her 12-year-old had been diagnosed with cancer. Another woman’s 23-year-old son was killed in a hunting accident. We hear about tragedies like this every day and realize that life is so precious. It could end at any time.
Many of us don’t live our dream. In fact, we don’t think or talk about it for fear that we might sound stupid. “Why talk about something that might never come true?” we ask ourselves. We move through our comfortable routines day in and day out. But when does “comfortable” become “stagnant” or even “suffocating?”
The newly widowed woman reminded me, “Tell the people you care about that you love them every day, because it may be the last time you see them. You never know.”
I carried these words home with me and individually told my husband and each of my sons that I love him. As the kids went off for school, I heard my friend’s voice reminding me, “it may be the last time you see them …” It’s so fresh right now, but in a week or two, it will probably go back to normal. I’ll be busy, kiss them goodbye and expect them to be home after school.
If you’ve ever done the exercise, “What if you found out that you had six months (or less) to live…” you know that with the time clock ticking, your priorities tend to change. A new sense of courage and boldness comes through and you describe really living your dream.
Life coaching presents opportunities to discover and talk about finding the dream and moving towards making it happen ” without the six-month time clock.
The other day one of my clients was talking about his dream. I could hear and feel his passion. His eyes lit up and his voice became more animated; he was alive and shining in his brilliance. From that point, we uncovered ideas and ways he could manifest his dream more fully. Not to say that we didn’t bump up against his inner critic or saboteur a couple of times ” you know, the voice that tells you that you can’t do something. But even that we tackled head-on.
Then we added some brainstorming, action plans, homework, commitment and accountability and suddenly, he started moving towards his dream. He said he was a bit scared and felt he was outside of his comfort zone, but he was also alive! It was a safe risk.
In effect, the time clock is always ticking. Don’t wait to dream. Step out now and move forward with passion and strength. Let your brilliance shine through. Live!
Coaching Challenge: What is your dream? When was the last time you thought about it, talked about it or took a step to make your dream come true? If it’s been more than a couple of weeks, it’s been too long.
In a journal or with a friend describe your dream. How would your life look if your dream came true? As you are writing, note what you feel. If it is passion and excitement, when was the last time you felt like this? Do some brainstorming and come up with one action step you can take that will move you towards this goal. Make the commitment to yourself and take one tiny little step toward the dream. Note your feelings and then make a commitment to take one more step. You are now two steps closer to making your dream come true. Even if it’s scary, you are alive!
Sheri Fisher is a Life Coach who lives in Grand Junction. Her practice, Living On Purpose, focuses on personal and professional coaching. The situations and characters in her column are fictional to maintain client confidentiality. Sheri can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org or for more information, visit http://www.coachwithsheri.com.