Living this amazing midlife in Eagle County
Vail CO, Colorado
EAGLE COUNTY ” I have more wrinkles than I used to have. My butt is too soft and my breasts are not where they used to be. I have memory gaps. Gray hair appeared recently. I used to call myself a multi-tasker, but now I don’t want to be that busy. When my kids talk about music, I have no idea who they’re talking about. These are parts of me.
I’m in mid-life. I love to admit that now. It’s OK. I’m not as young as I used to be and my body hurts more than it used to. I have friends who remind me often of how old I am, it must make them feel better.
In our 20s, we are involved in the world outside of soul ” time moves slowly. We almost always say “yes.” In our 30s, we are involved with feeling successful, making sure of who we are. In our 40s, we begin to like ourselves a little more and learn to say no.
In our 50s, we sit in our truth of who we are meant to be. We begin to live in the possibility of our dreams. We learn mastery. We are so comfortable with our being that many of us will step into a new career, a new creative process or a new knowing. We are in our second puberty.
We don’t have to sink into dowdiness or grandparentness. We may be grandparents, but we don’t have to sit in a rocker and tell stories of the war. This is not a time to head towards the grave. People in their 50s are beginning to realize that this is the time to be completely awake. We learn to be more in the present, understanding that the present may not last much longer.
There is a calmness that we don’t have in our 20s, 30s and 40s. There is a knowing that, no matter how intuitive you are, you will not embrace until you are in your 50s. You don’t care what anyone thinks about what you do and who you are that you do not find in younger years. Our bodies may be changing, but through choice, we can create our mid-life into a new consciousness.
This is an amazing time to take hold of who we are. We’re not done yet. We can keep the mind and body active. This is not the time to stop working on ourselves. We let go of baggage. We move slower in order to move inward.
Our bodies may be aging and changing, but we can learn to appreciate the history held within. Our spirit can open as our bodies continue on its slowing process. The reality is that the body will begin to fail; the truth is that it is all about perception.
We could title our book of life as “My Biggest Mistakes.” Or we could title it, “Forgiveness ” The New Story of My Life.” You have a chance each moment to forgive yourself for your past. None of your past mistakes are held against you in the realm of Spirit, God, Buddha, Muhammad or whatever your higher power is. All the love you ever experienced was real. Everything else was only a story or your personality just trying to figure things out.
According to “A Course in Miracles,” “In the moment when you were not your best self ” when you didn’t stand up as the most loving you could be ” then all the good you deflected is being held in trust for you until you’re ready to receive it.”
Now go live your midlife. Be proud and do all the things you’ve always wanted to do ” travel, paint, take up yoga, dance, marry, stay single, laugh, love and know that each moment you get a new opportunity to be a fully embraceable you.
Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards and teaches Metaphysics at Colorado Mountain College in Edwards. You can visit her website at http://www.healing-spirits.net.
Support Local Journalism
Start a dialogue, stay on topic and be civil.
If you don't follow the rules, your comment may be deleted.
User Legend: Moderator Trusted User
A Nov. 30 to Governor Polis and the Eagle County Commissioners from Beaver Creek Resorts Company – as well as the towns of Vail, Avon, Eagle and Minturn – requests a variance program which would allow businesses to remain open.