The e-mail cancellation
It has recently been brought to my attention that there are many people out there who don’t get it when it comes to canceling plans. Now I’m the first person to understand having to postpone a dinner or cancel on your plans for a weekend getaway because something has come up. I’m just particular as to how those plans are cancelled.I understand that the magnitude of the plans and the amount of time they’ve been established for come into play here, but I think that it’s pretty safe to say that shooting off a quick e-mail to get yourself out of something, no matter how minor the plans are, is a cop-out. If you’re canceling on someone, can’t you at the very least pick up the phone and do it in person?A friend of mine had plans with a girl he was dating to go to London for a long weekend. He had only been dating her for about six months, and they weren’t very serious, but they thought that it would be fun to have a weekend trip together. About a week before the trip, she wrote him a quick e-mail saying, “Sorry to have to do this to you, but I’m not going to be able to make the trip next weekend because something has come up at work.” What?! Did she really think that canceling via e-mail was the best way to deal with the situation? She couldn’t be THAT clueless. Furious at the e-mail cancellation, he tried to call her for the next few days and had no luck getting hold of her. Not only did she blow him off for the weekend in an e-mail, she then pulled a George Castanza and wouldn’t take his calls or see him so that he technically couldn’t end things with her.Furious is an understatement of how my friend was feeling and rightfully so. I have little patience for people who don’t take the time out of their busy schedules to deal with people the way they’d want to be treated. It would have taken 10 more minutes for that girl to pick up the phone to let my friend know that she had to cancel the weekend trip, but still she did it via e-mail.Although my friend still would have been disappointed that the girl couldn’t go with him to London, he wouldn’t have been offended the way he was. Not making the extra effort to pick up the phone to tell someone that you can’t make dinner, or whatever it is that you have to get out of, sends the message that you don’t really care about blowing them off and that it wasn’t something that you really wanted to do in the first place. If you did, you would have had enough respect for the person to call them and tell them in person how bummed you are that you won’t be able to make the commitment you had with them.So, next time you have to cancel on a friend, boyfriend, spouse whoever think about the way in which you do it. It’s really all in the delivery.Crystal Clear is a socially savvy Vail native who would love to get your thoughts and opinions at email@example.com.