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Trista Sutter: Being good to yourself is the first step

Trista Sutter
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What: Presentation and book signing with Trista Sutter, author of “Happily Ever After.”

When: 6 p.m. Monday.

Where: The Bookworm of Edwards.

Cost: $10, includes appetizers and a cash bar.

More information: Call 970-926-READ.

I have had a hard time believing my fate for more than a decade now, but adding “author” to the mix is right up on the surreal scale with finding my husband on reality television and saying our “I do’s” in front of 26 million people.

I feel incredibly blessed for so many reasons. Some may think that I have lived a fairy tale, and I’d agree with them in regard to a couple magical moments of my life. My book, though, isn’t just about finding my “Happily Ever After.” Yes, I write about meeting and marrying the wonderful man I call my husband, but that story is part of a bigger picture … part of the picture of gratitude that has been such a powerful force in finding my life’s happiness.

Included in the 254 pages of “Happily Ever After: The Life-Changing Power of a Grateful Heart” are stories from my life, as well as those that have inspired me, quotes, “Happily Ever Actions” and tons of research that I felt conveyed my message: if you embrace a grateful heart, then you will live a happier life.

Here’s a taste of the book. I hope you’ll join me at The Bookworm of Edwards on Monday to hear more.


“You can’t invite your friends and loved ones inside of a house you haven’t built yet.” Rev Run, the hip-hop legend and minister definitely has a way with words, and when he posted this quote on Twitter, I immediately wrote it in the little journal I have dedicated to collecting my favorites.

It was the perfect way to describe two notions that have guided the most important relationships of my life: (1) It is only through knowing and truly loving yourself that you can ever welcome anyone else into your world; (2) It is only by taking care of your personal health and well-being that you will have the energy and ability to care for the people who depend on you, including your kids, spouse, parents, friends or even your precious babies with fur or feathers.

If you’ve ever been on an airplane, you’ve heard the safety announcements: “In the unlikely event of pressure loss, oxygen masks will appear overhead. If you are seated next to a small child or someone needing assistance, secure your own mask first before assisting them.”

Until I became a mother, that sounded so selfish to me. You shouldn’t offer help to those who need it most before you take care of yourself? That’s not what all those lessons of childhood taught me! I should be a giving person, right? Someone who puts others before herself, right? After all, if I don’t place the oxygen mask on the little faces of those depending on me, who will? Well, no one if I’ve already lost consciousness (God forbid!).

The only way to ensure that they have what they need is to make sure that I can give them what they need — and that means taking care of myself first. This is not to say that you are more important than those you are caring for, but that you are as important.

From “Happily Ever After: The Life-Changing Power of a Grateful Heart” by Trista Sutter. Reprinted with permission of Da Capo Lifelong Books.

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