Vail Daily column: Find a mix of serious and spontaneous
May 9, 2012
Sometimes it is just so exhilarating when we can exercise the luxury of acting impulsively – taking advantage of an opportunity that happens to present itself in one of those now-or-never type moments.
There are some people who live their lives for spontaneity and adventure. They don’t worry about the “what ifs,” they just get into “go” mode. Then there are others who are just so serious they could never act out upon a whim. They are guarded in all that they do and even if they do take a risk, it is always a well thought out and educated risk.
It is not possible to say that one personality style is right or wrong or better or worse than the other. Some of our daring, adventure seeking, and spontaneous friends could benefit from a little lesson in prudence sometimes and conversely our friends who are set in their ways, cautious, and predictable could learn to take a leap of faith every now and then.
You see, being too spontaneous could sometimes lead to reckless behavior and end up with unexpected trouble or situations. But being too serious, guarded and predictable could possibly lead to boredom in our own life and even worse, becoming a bore to those around us.
Balance is the key. Kind of like Goldilocks and the Three Bears, where this spontaneous action is too hot, and this secure lifestyle is too cold. But this mix of serious spontaneity is just right.
If we all gave it just a little thought we could easily think of times where we wish we would have been more impulsive, taking advantage of a situation where we missed that opening or opportunity. As a matter of fact I have spoken with people who shared that those missed opportunities still haunt them to this day.
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And I have also met with folks who wished that they could go back in time, taking back actions or words where maybe they could have been more guarded or thoughtful before jumping on to that spontaneous highway with no possibility of a U-turn anywhere in sight.
Certainly there are those moments of life where we can be a little care fee and even impetuous and not overthink a situation before jumping in. Taking advantage of those precious moments will add fun, smiles, laughter and love to our lives. And then there are those situations where we must act with prudence and caution, even to the point of thinking things all the way through before reacting or responding.
How about you? Are you too serious and willing to maybe take a risk or two? Or are you the adventurous type that could benefit from a little seriousness? Either way, I would love to hear all about it at firstname.lastname@example.org and I hope that you will make it a seriously spontaneous better than good week.
Michael Norton is a strategic consultant, business and personal coach and motivational speaker, and CEO of http://www.candogo.com. He writes a weekly motivational column for the Vail Daily.