Vail Daily Human Hints: Remove your roadblocks to success
Vail, CO Colorado
We have discussed the concept of aligning different aspects of your self toward a common goal. Today we will discuss common roadblocks and resistance that we create and use for self-sabotage.
If we don’t manifest our desires, it is because we don’t want to – and we don’t want to because we have developed a negative association with living the life of our dreams and getting everything we’ve always wanted. We must train ourselves to associate abundance with good feelings. Yes, this is as easy as it sounds.
One of the most potent poisons to success is guilt. When some people think of living the life of their dreams, they think of their friends and family who are locked in struggle, and they feel guilty. We will get the urge to do things that will insure that we stay locked in struggle with those we love.
To snap out of guilt, we must remember that people lock themselves in struggle by unconscious choice. Just because others chose to remain stuck, doesn’t mean we have to sacrifice the rest of our lives for them. Everyone is different and everyone chooses their own destiny. The logic helps drive away the negative association of guilt.
To add a positive association, we must realize that our own success will help others to see that struggle is not necessary. They will see that we have created our own lives and hopefully they will see that they can, too. By removing our guilt, we might help others achieve success.
The ultimate obstacle to our success is guilt. It can permeate and stifle every aspect of our lives without our even knowing it. Guilt is natural. If we’ve struggled our entire lives, it can be very threatening to think of getting everything we’ve ever wanted. What would we do if our survival didn’t depend on working from dawn till dusk for very little money?
Guilt causes pain, anger and resistance, so when you feel these things, ask yourself what you feel guilty about and stop. What pain are you associating with your success? Once you discover this, think of the pain that not achieving your goals will cause you.
Chances are, not achieving your goals will bring far greater pain than achieving them. One of ego’s primary goals is to avoid pain, so once your ego understands that not acting will bring more pain than taking action, it will gracefully move out of your way and will actually help you in your efforts.
Don’t feel guilty about your success. Your success can only help those you love. Don’t be afraid of getting everything you’ve ever wanted. There will always be something for you to strive for. The kind of people who create their own reality are the kind of people who never run out of goals to achieve.
The first step in overcoming your fears and self-sabotaging roadblocks is to become aware of them. When you are aware of them, you can turn them around and release them effortlessly and gracefully without painful resistance.
Quentin Danziger is a proud Vail resident. He has a bachelor of science degree in engineering physics from Colorado School of Mines. He can be reached at Quentin@HumanHints.com Go to HumanHints.com to receive this column in your daily e-mail.