Vail health feature: Give children the freedom to play
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Tips for free play
If you’re realizing that your children have lots of opportunities for structured activity but little time left for unstructured play, then consider freeing up some of that scheduled time:
• Let children choose from a variety of open-ended toys that will challenge their creativity. Examples include Legos, blocks, art supplies, dolls and other toys that spark imagination.
• Rotate open-ended toys so that children are excited by ones they haven’t played with in a while.
• Give kids time to play with their neighbors. Neighbors are not chosen friends, and they usually vary in age. Allowing your children time to navigate those relationships with kids they’ll know for years and providing them the freedom to ride bikes, use sidewalk chalk and brew potions with neighbors is invaluable!
• When children are playing together, monitor their social interactions and step in only as needed. Unstructured play encourages children to negotiate social issues such as sharing, and descriptive commenting can help reinforce behavior. Example: “I see that you’re sharing,” or “I noticed that your friend got sad when you took away his toy.”
• Be a willing audience for children who are playing creatively; engage in make-believe or role-playing activities.
• Keep technology use to a minimum. Computer games are more passive and less social than unstructured playtime with other children.
• Arrange play dates with other children outdoors or in a neutral location. Fresh air and physical activity are great, and children can play without having any arguments over sharing personal toys.
Editor’s note: This story first ran in Vail Health magazine.
The Vail area provides plenty of prime playground space for kids and adults, alike. With a mountain environment that offers year-round opportunities for outdoor sports and a rich, creative culture that allows children the chance to take art classes, music lessons and more, it’s not difficult to fill their schedules with nonstop activity. But chances are that if you’re feeling the pressure of being busy, your kids are feeling it, too.
There’s no disputing the fact that children need playtime, and lots of it. Play helps kids develop essential physical, cognitive, emotional and social skills, but there’s an important difference between structured and unstructured play. And what kids need more than a slew of scheduled activities is the freedom to play in an unbounded, unstructured way.
“Free play lets children learn through all of their senses, and it’s what allows them to develop their creativity and confidence,” said Julia Kozusko, a local parent coach and professional counselor. “More and more, our society wants to shape children who are globally competitive, but unstructured play is an essential building block that can prepare them for bigger tasks in the future.”
Kozusko’s company is Elevated Parenting, and she also facilitates the Incredible Years parenting program with the local nonprofit Early Childhood Partners, where more than 300 parents have attended classes over the past nine years.
Unstructured play, often called free play or child-led play, requires unscheduled blocks of time during which children are free to explore their interests or pursue activities that involve imaginative and creative effort. Yes, both free playtime and structured playtime involve the key element of play, but structured play is often bounded by adult rules, schedules and goals. In sports practices, for example, where rules provide the boundaries for play and where a competitive drive factors into the outcome, children often do not have as much freedom to explore their interests as they do in an unstructured setting. Likewise, classes or lessons — no matter how well-intentioned — still often follow an ordered framework instead of giving children’s imaginations free rein.
Providing the space for children to free play can free parents up, too. Unstructured play doesn’t need to involve driving to multiple locations, and it doesn’t have to cost anything. Finally, even though the developmental benefits of unstructured play are immense, it’s also important to remember why we play in the first place. As Kozusko says, “The real power in play is that it’s fun.