Vail Perspective: Gossip hurts, the truth heals |

Vail Perspective: Gossip hurts, the truth heals

Catherine Zeeb
Vail, CO Colorado

VAIL, Colorado “-Gossip hurts everyone in Colorado’s Vail Valey. If you know something about someone or think you know something about someone, why do you feel it is your job to share that with anyone else? Sharing information about something you have been privy to is gossip. Gossip hurts.

Gossip is talk or rumor of known or unknown information. It benefits no one. Gossiping happens for a few reasons: The gossiper feels like it benefits them as they appear to know more than others, it gives them something to talk about when they don’t know what else to say, to be cruel, or it makes them feel closer to others, even at the expense of someone else.

Our words can create peace and love. The can be spoken from wisdom. Or they can hurt and destroy. Words cannot be taken back. The word is pure magic or we can create chaos with the word.

Gossip has been a form of communication in human society. An example of gossip would be if you were going to start a new class and someone tells you how horrible the teacher is. This is strictly their opinion. You will walk into that room with that information about the teacher on your mind. You will have already formed an opinion of the teacher before entering the class. Once information is out, you are imprinted with it.

Gossip is of the ego. Although we may hear something about someone, we tend to think of what we’ve heard when we see the person, even if you try to ignore the information. This is how the ego works. It will justify our own behavior and thoughts about someone else as though what we are doing is okay.

– Speak with integrity. What you say is reflected in your actions. It is also an indication of how you feel about yourself.

– Be impeccable with your word. Make sure that what comes out of your mouth is exactly what you want reflected about who you are.

If you speak of someone make sure you are speaking as though you are speaking about yourself. If you are speaking with integrity, you will notice how good it feels to speak only with love, truth and compassion.

The desire to gossip is strong. The desire to connect to others, even at the expense of someone else, can drive us to gossip. Mother always said, “If you don’t have anything nice to say, don’t say anything at all.” How true these words are.

Make the choice today that you will only speak that which is important and not speak anything that is not important or hurtful. When you are around others who are gossiping, leave. Do not engage in the behavior anymore.

It is not judgment of others for you to leave if they start gossiping. You are just taking care of your soul. If what is being said is not said with love, truth and compassion, you may not to stay in that environment.

Take care of yourself. Take care of your soul. Speak truthfully and with love. Speak only from your heart. The benefits far outweigh the damage the alternative can cause.

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