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Vail Perspective: ‘Words are our most powerful tool’

Catherine Zeeb
A New Perspective
Vail, CO Colorado

VAIL, Colorado – The first agreement in “Four Agreements,” a book by Don Miguel Ruiz, is be impeccable with your word.

“Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love,” according to the book.

This is a very powerful agreement. It sounds very simple but our words are our most powerful tool. Our words can create peace and love. The can be spoken from wisdom, or they can hurt and destroy. Words cannot be taken back. The word is pure magic or we can create chaos with the word.

Speak with integrity. What you say is reflected in your actions. It is also an indication of how you feel about yourself.

Be impeccable with your word. Make sure that what comes out of your mouth is exactly what you want reflected about who you are.

If you speak about someone, make sure you are speaking as though you are speaking about yourself. If you are speaking with integrity, you will notice how good it feels to speak only with love, truth and compassion.

For one week, try to be impeccable with your words. Make sure that what you say is what you mean to say and that you recognize the negative words you speak to yourself.

Write “I will be impeccable with my word” on a few sticky notes and place them around your house, car and workplace. They will be reminders to check in with yourself throughout your day. If you find that you are not being impeccable with your word, make the changes necessary at that moment, sometimes learning to zip your lips. If you find that you like what comes out of your mouth and your words reflect you, then continue on. Make the choice today that you will only speak that which is important and not speak anything that is hurtful – to others as well as to yourself.

Take care of yourself. Take care of your soul. Speak truthfully and with love. Speak only from your heart. The benefits far outweigh the damage the alternative can cause. Speak truth to yourself and love yourself for doing that. This will be reflected in the way you speak to others and the way you act towards others. Speak only with love and compassion for others. Experience the joy of compassion through your words.

“This is the first agreement that you should make if you want to be free, if you want to be happy, if you want to transcend the level of existence that is hell,” writes Ruiz.

The next three columns will also be dedicated to “The Four Agreements.” If you, the reader, are interested in participating, apply each new weekly agreement to your daily life. At the end of these of the series, I would love to receive feedback. Let me know if there are any changes in your life.

Catherine Zeeb, Ph.D., is a private therapist in the Vail Valley specializing in spiritual counseling, addiction counseling and marriage and family counseling. She is also a co-creator of Journeys in Living Spirituality, held on the first and third Saturdays of each month at the Avon Library. You can contact Zeeb at 970-376-6660 or visit her Web site at

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