Vail Valley perspective: Finding clarity in your life
Vail, CO Colorado
VAIL, Colorado “-There once was a woman who met a man who lived in a house on a hill. The woman said to the man, “I want marriage and children badly.” He said, “I don’t want either of those things.” Five years later they married. Five years later she said, “I want children badly.” He said, “I still don’t want children.” Five years later, they had a child. Five years later they divorced.
Where was the clarity of mind and of heart in this situation? Each person, although saying the words, made excuses, rationalizations and justifications for their own feelings and actions and for the feelings and actions of the other person. When we live our lives making excuses for our behavior, we get into situations that can be not only very uncomfortable, but very difficult. We then feel disconnected from our own souls.
In the story above, we now have a divorced couple with a child. Had each person in the story been true to themselves, they would have realized that they had different hopes and dreams for their lives. Had they been clear within themselves, they wouldn’t have married and they wouldn’t have brought a child into a broken home.
There are many types of clarity. There is the clarity of mind, clarity of soul, clarity of the body, clarity of speech, and clarity to others. When we are clear, we are paying attention. We are conscious. We make the best choices we can in the moment for our soul. These choices get reflected in our lives. We are guided by our truth, or clarity, rather than by our egos (our desires, fears, etc).
It isn’t easy to be clear. We aren’t used to being clear and we probably weren’t taught how to be clear. Clarity isn’t about being aggressive or even assertive. Clarity isn’t about expressing your feelings without knowing what you’re truly feeling. It isn’t about telling others what you think without first knowing that what you are saying is truth for you. Clarity is not about telling others what is wrong with them as well.
Clarity is about being true to yourself about what you are feeling. You are the only one who knows your truth. You know when you are justifying, rationalizing or making excuses for your feelings, thoughts and behavior. The more you pay attention to what is true for you, the clearer you will be in speech and action.
Clear thoughts lead to clear words, which lead to clear actions. If you want clear actions, than you need clear thoughts. Our thoughts become action. That action can be expressed through speech or physical activity. Action that is done without clarity gets us into trouble or we then have to “take back our words.”
Be clear of mind, clear of heart and clear of soul. Be true to yourself. First and foremost, clarity within your soul is the place from which all relationships and all communication within relationships manifests. Without clarity, we play the game of the ego.
There is freedom in clarity and in that freedom is tons of laughter and light. The heaviness of the ego mind keeps us in stalemate. Move forward in your life, laugh often and love the clarity of your soul, which manifests itself into the world.
Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in-Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.