Victimhood is for other people
May 12, 2012
GYPSUM, Colorado – Fight like a girl. Better yet, fight like this girl.
Kym Rock is an adorable, 5-foot-2, 110-pound barrel of whoop-ass, and she’s teaching women to crack open their own cans and pour them all over assailants.
Victimhood, she said, is for other people.
One in three women will be victims of assault, she said, rattling off crime statistics in her smooth, Southern lilt. On this day, she’s working with a dozen and a half young women from Eagle Valley High School.
She can’t teach them everything in an hour and a half – that’s a couple of years of her Fight Like a Girl course. But in their 90 minutes together, they giggled, they laughed and they learned.
She first taught them to get away and then how to hurt their attacker.
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“If they’re hurt, they cannot follow you,” she said.
Rock is a karate champion and mixed martial artist. She breaks down complex martial-arts moves into easy-to-remember bits and then gives them seriously cool and easy-to-remember names.
“Super Star” teaches women to escape a backpack attack. Then there’s “Get Off Me Fool,” “Up Yours,” “Talk to the Hand,” “Stir the Pot” and “Go to Sleep.” The list is long and fascinating.
“If I tell you to take a left fighting stance with a knife strike, will you remember that? No,” she said.
Then she demonstrates “Talk to the Hand” again, and her assailant goes down as if he’s had his pumpkin pounded with a sack of concrete. She escapes to safety.
“That’s Fight Like a Girl,” Rock said.
Fight Like a Girl recently headquartered in Eagle County. Rock’s originally from the East Coast, and that’s where she started, but now, for lots of good reasons, she lives here. Mostly because she likes it and because it’s healthy.
She knows about health and about illness. She’s a cancer survivor – malignant thyroid cancer. She knows about being a victim. She escaped an abusive relationship when martial-arts training helped her gain the confidence, she said.
If it helped her, it could help other women, so she decided to start teaching.
The program took years to streamline and perfect. She’s been doing martial arts for 27 years and teaching for 13 years.
Now it’s Web-based and can be taught in schools and in other locations. The Girl Scouts are making it part of their program, she said.
But she still puts in more road time than anyone not named Goodyear. She usually travels to two different states every week. She’s doing seminar No. 195 next week, and seminars can attract 500 people.
“We’re in 28 states now and Australia,” she said.
And that brings us back to the Darling Dozen at Eagle Valley. Most of them will go to college this fall, and some of them will be attacked, Rock said.
“Crime is happening on a regular basis. They’re getting tired of being abused and their daughters being sexually assaulted. They want to be able to see to their own personal safety,” Rock said.
She goes through some worst-case
• Do everything you can. Use anything available as a weapon. Bite, kick, scratch, claw, fight back. Always fight back.
“Is your assailant wearing glasses? Break ’em and use ’em as a weapon,” she said.
• Use their energy against them, she said. The direction the energy is coming from, that’s the direction you go.
• Get close. It makes your attacker easier to hurt.
• You have to keep your wits and sight about you.
“You cannot survive if you cannot see,” she said.
• Turn toward trouble, face it so you can see it.
• Download a smartphone application that emits a blinding flash so bright it will blind an assailant, even during the day.
You have options. Surrender and victimhood do not need to be among them, she said.
Assailants come at you with guns, knives and a size advantage. Yeah, they’re problems, and every problem has a solution.
The best thing you can be is aware, she said. Attacks come from friends and strangers, alike.
“If your boyfriend hits you, dump him right then because he’ll do it again, and don’t you doubt it either,” she told the young women.
She said she sees it from both sides.
“Girls slap a guy and expect him to stand there and take it. If you feel the need to smack the guy, you need another guy,” she said.
Women should never bully, especially one another.
“As girls, you have to stop being mean to each other and stick together as women,” she told the young women assembled. “We have enough to deal with.
“If you’re being mean to someone, stop it. If you see someone else being mean to someone, stop it.”
And be confident.
“Don’t let anyone tell you that you can’t do something,” she said.
A guy put a rock in a box, called it a Pet Rock, and people bought millions of them for $4.99 each.
“When opportunity knocks, the answer is always ‘yes,'” she said.
Staff Writer Randy Wyrick can be reached at 970-748-2935 or firstname.lastname@example.org.