"What does your mirror look like?"
In one of the sessions I recently facilitated, I asked the group this question: “What does your mirror look like?”
I asked the class to take a few minutes and think about it before responding. I also gave them the freedom to choose any mirror they would like to describe for this exercise. It could have been a bathroom mirror, a bedroom mirror, maybe a decorative mirror in a living area and possibly even a rear-view mirror in an automobile.
Most of the answers may be exactly what you are thinking right now if you had been asked to describe your own mirror.
I heard things such as rectangular in shape, square, round and oval. Some used adjectives such as ornate, antique and contemporary, while others in the class used colors such as cherry wood, gold, brass, chrome and copper. And some shared the structure of the glass as having smooth or beveled edges.
Someone then chimed in with what I was really trying to get the group to think about. My student went into incredible detail about her mirror and I will try to paraphrase her description here as best I can. Her mirror was beautiful, strong, positive and confident. But her mirror also had some stress lines and was even a little weathered. Her mirror was filled with love yet also contained some recent hurts. And finally, her mirror was filled with hope. And then she shared what she loved most about her mirror: Almost each and every day, her mirror looked different.
What does your mirror look like? Whether it is round or square, copper or brass, contemporary or antique, what does it really look like when you take the time to look right in the middle of it?
Is it the most beautiful mirror you have ever seen? Is it full of promise and hope? Is there something in the reflection that you need or want to change? Is the image a little weathered and a little stressed?
And as you stand before the mirror, is it full of love, compassion and hope? If it isn’t, the good news is that you can choose to change the picture in your mirror any time you want.
I love artwork, but I really believe that the most beautiful and greatest piece of art ever created is you. Now I am not talking about the self-centered egomaniacal narcissist who stands looking only at their outer appearance in total awe. I am talking about you, the loving, good-natured and good-hearted, amazing, confident, positive and hopeful person.
I would love to hear how you describe your mirror at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Michael Norton is a strategic consultant, business and personal coach and motivational speaker and CEO of http://www.candogo.com. He writes a weekly motivational column for the Vail Daily.