Zeeb: Explore practices of the ancient ones
Vail CO, Colorado
“The Four Agreements:” This simple yet complex book is one of my favorites of all time. I highly recommend it to everyone. I thought this would be a great avenue to tell you more about the principles held within. Principles that, regardless of your spiritual or religious beliefs, can help you create a more peaceful life.
The author is Don Miguel Ruiz. The principles in this book are the teaching of the Toltec. The Toltec were scientists and artists who formed a society to explore and conserve the spiritual knowledge and practices of the ancient ones.
Agreement #1: Be impeccable with your word. Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.
Your words are powerful. Your world is created by your words. Your word can create beauty or destroy everything. Being impeccable with your word means that you use your energy towards truth and love. That what you say comes from the love of self and that is what you wish to express to the world.
Agreement #2: Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
No matter what someone says, especially if it’s negative, it is not about you. Realize that people are dealing with their own emotional baggage. They are trying to hook you into believing something negative about yourself because they think it will make them feel better. It is not about you. Let it go. Don’t attach to it and don’t engage.
Agreement #3: Don’t make assumptions. Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
When we make assumptions, we are asking for problems. We don’t know anything; especially about other people and we can create drama for nothing. Clarity is the key.
In relationships we tend to make assumptions. Our partners looks at us a certain way and we immediately think they feel something negative towards us, for example. We will cause all sorts of drama in the relationship if we stay in our mindset of assuming what the look meant. Ask questions and look for clarity. You will both be released from any drama when everything is understood.
Agreement #4: Always do your best. Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.
If you do the best you can in each moment without stressing over whether your best is good enough, you will live without feeling so tired. You will not deplete your energy by worrying whether you did your best. Know that the best you do in each moment stands firm.
Take these principles, these four agreements, and try them for one week. Try just one of them. If the results feel good, then keep on using them in your life. Things really can be simple if we allow ourselves to let go of trying to make this life so difficult or always controlling it to be what we think it should be. If what you’re doing now isn’t working, why not try something new?
Catherine Zeeb holds a Doctorate of Philosophy in Metaphysics. She has a private therapy practice in Edwards and teaches Metaphysics at Colorado Mountain College in Edwards. You can visit her Web site at http://www.healing-spirits.net.