Vail Daily column: Bold new possibilities
Typically, this is the week during which big dreams meet an ignominious end. Compare the queue for your workout class today with the one seven days hence for an illustration of this unfortunate outcome. A myriad factors contribute to the fizzling of intentions unrealized: sloth, lack of momentum, undefined expectations. Conventional wisdom suggests that your plans were foiled because they were not regimented and incremental.
I offer an alternative explanation for your past collapses: Maybe your dreams are simply not sufficiently grandiose. It is a failure deeply rooted in a lack of imagination. There is no sense shooting for the top floor when you can aim for the edge of the universe (an impossible task, since it is constantly expanding, but perhaps that imperfect metaphor has its own sort of wisdom). Go so big that failure is not an option.
Mediocrity may be fine for the masses, but you are special. Instead of gunning for a promotion at a company about which you have mixed feelings, start your own business. At this time last year, the triumvirate at RKV Law embarked on a new law firm adventure. All three of us have young families and the consequences for failure included Ryan’s then-unborn daughter going hungry. The downside was so unthinkable that we had no choice but to pour our collective resources into an all-out effort. After a year of glorious toil, I am pleased to report that Colby is beautiful, healthy and well-fed.
DON’T UNDER ESTIMATE YOURSELF
Most have a tendency to underestimate their capacity for greatness. Much like the mother who suddenly finds the strength to lift a car to free her trapped baby, it is not possible to know your limits until you far exceed them. Thereafter, the bar is reset and you continue to strive until such time as Richard Branson looks like a lazy mailroom clerk. The journey about which I write is not about financial gain. Money is merely a potential byproduct of your quest. Freedom, fulfillment and that warm feeling of happiness are the ends that you seek.
Muddling through a romantic relationship or friendship is anathema to living a bold life. If you kissed your boyfriend or girlfriend at the stroke of New Year’s out of obligation and not out of gratitude and desire, then take heed. Break the cycle of average and demand better: Cute but not smart or kind is truly a recipe for a half-baked cake.
A GOOD LIFE PARTNER MAKES IT ALL POSSIBLE
On the contrary, if you cannot imagine spending your days apart from your significant other, do not wait another second. Despite recent flak, there is little more audacious than a true union, whatever you choose to call it. Lest you attempt to go it solo, convinced that you can do no better, remember that smashing success in any context is rarely, if ever, attained alone.
Not only do I have two amazing and accomplished partners who are incredibly supportive, but we all have wives who are our superiors in every objective category.
FIGHTING IS POINTLESS
Disputes are all petty, even if they are over a billion dollars. Transcending the tendency toward conflict is perhaps the most worthy and daring resolution to which you can commit this year. We are on this Earth for a frighteningly short span and spending even a fraction of that precious time on fighting is a tragic waste. Betting your fortune on the outcome of litigation is risky. It is truly courageous to look your enemy in the eye and tell them that they can have it all.
These general principles are applicable to goals of all relative scales. Instead of aiming to finally tidy up your bathroom, scrub your entire house with a toothbrush. Do not merely seek to drop a few pounds, hone your body until your magnificence causes every room you enter to be overcome with awed reverence. Working to complete your novel is not enough: Endeavor to make Mark Twain turn in his grave. Take a quotidian goal and then expand it exponentially.
There is nothing piecemeal about this new attitude. It is a radical transformation of outlook that requires jettisoning the safe and easy. The consequences are commensurately magnified. You may descend from the greatest heights to the grimiest proverbial slum. You may experience moments of incredible joy, but the final calculus of reward cannot be accurately measured except at the death knell, when your last breath is one of pure contentment. To even consider this as the ultimate objective is so insane that it is in fact the only sane choice.
T.J. Voboril is a partner at Reynolds, Kalamaya & Voboril LLC, a local law firm, and the owner/mediator at Voice Of Reason Dispute Resolution. For more information, contact Voboril at 970-306-6456, firstname.lastname@example.org or visit http://www.rkvlaw.com.