Vail Daily column: If it’s to be, it’s up to me
Throughout the Memorial Day weekend, as I was visiting family and friends in Montauk, New York, we stopped by the local grocery store to pick up some things for the weekend picnic and barbecue. It was a perfect beach day, the weather was phenomenal and the morning sun was already melting away the remnants of spring.
As expected, the grocery store was packed with other people who had made the trek out to the eastern tip of Long Island for the weekend. As we maneuvered through the mayhem and crowd while steering our cart and avoiding other shoppers, children and display cases, I couldn’t help but overhear a conversation between a bread vendor and a local regular customer.
The customer and the vendor were discussing how busy the store was and how it was only the beginning of the summer season. And the vendor, with a big smile of genuine gratitude and appreciation on his face, looked at the customer and said, “We wait for this all year, don’t we?”
This is the time of the year when local businesses make their money. Tourists pour into town from Memorial Day through Labor Day and the shops, restaurants, bars and area attractions wait all year to capitalize on this season. It is kind of like our ski towns here in Colorado. Although many of the ski areas and towns are also awesome in the summertime as well, some may argue that it’s even better now than in the winter.
Why do we wait?
I couldn’t help but think about the vendor’s comment, “We wait for this all year, don’t we?” And I wondered if there was something I wait for all year, too. Is there a season that I wait for? Is there an event I wait for? Is there a person I am waiting for? And if I am waiting, why am I waiting? Shouldn’t I be doing something to maximize my potential or pursue other opportunities, challenges or adventures while I am waiting?
When it comes to certain things, I can be extremely patient. However, when it comes to waiting for something else to happen in order for me to achieve success or accomplish a task, I am not very patient at all. By putting my success in the hands of another person, a season or an event, I am leaving my success to chance rather than being the driver and force that determines whether I succeed or fail. And as that old saying goes, “If it’s to be, it’s up to me.”
And with an attitude of “If it’s to be it’s up to me,” we can hold ourselves accountable for taking the actions necessary to control our own successes and destinies instead of waiting for and maybe even blaming outside sources or influences when we miss out on an opportunity. The time to pursue our goals and dreams is now. Not after the summer, not after the kids go back to school, not after the election, not after the holidays, not just at the New Year, but now —and I mean right now.
So what are you waiting for? If it was a nudge, I hope this was it. If it was something more I would love to hear all about it or help you set a path toward achieving your goals and dreams. You can email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and when we live life with an attitude of “if it’s to be it’s up to me” it really will be a better than good week.
Michael Norton is a strategic consultant, business and personal coach, motivational speaker and CEO of http://www.candogo.com. He writes a weekly motivational column for the Vail Daily.
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